“When people put you down long enough you start to believe it”. I was watching the movie Pretty Woman today and I heard Julia Roberts make that statement. For those who have not seen the movie it’s a Cinderella type love story about a hooker, Julia and her rich Jon Richard Gere who pays her to spend the week with him as his date. After spending time with her he Begins to see that there’s more to her than what is seen in the life she has been living.
He tells her that she is smart and starts to tell her the good attributes that he sees, she makes the statement, when you hear negative and derogatory things said about you for so long you begin to believe it and then you start to become it,(my emphasis.) The bad stuff is easier to believe than the good.
Hearing that statement sparked me to write this piece because it’s so true. Each of us can tell our own story about the unbelief we feel when someone tells us about all the good things they see or admire about us.
How much do we focus on and believe the criticisms of others more than the strengths and capabilities that we hold.
Even when we do know our owns strengths and gifts,we many times cower back in the background and let others take ownership and responsibility for things we clearly know we would do better. We do it because we either don’t really believe in ourselves enough or are afraid to step up and take on the challenge.
We don’t have to allow other people’s opinion of us to become our reality. We need only believe in ourselves enough to know that we can do what we determine or were gifted to do, and watch our environment open up and lead us into the right time and place.
But as the pretty woman said, it’s easier to believe the bad stuff. My take is because we have been conditioned to.
It’s easier and does not take much effort. When you decide to press in to who you know you were meant to be, you are many times going up stream in a downhill current.
One of the things I have been working on to help renew my mind to believe the truth about who I am, is to participate in the daily A.B.L.E. challenge that Charity’s Hope has going for the month. Research shows that it takes twenty eight days to change a habit.
Doing the A.B.L.E’s for tthirtyt days is building a new habit. A.B.L.E. stands for A Beautiful Loving Expression. It is a statement you start with “I am” A Beautiful Loving Expression of……what ever you are declaring to be the expression of that day.
The goal is to get you to think about who you are or the you that you are striving to be. In thinking about who that is, you begin to speak or declare to yourself what Beautiful, Loving, Expression of that person you are going to be that day. It doesn’t matter if that is you Yet. In declaring it at the beginning of your day you are planting the seeds in your conscious mind to start hearing out of your own mouth, what you believe about yourself.
As you hear yourself expressing the positive attributes of you in the tense of it being now; you are re conditioning yourself to believe that it is, even if not yet in full manifestation. This makes it normal and natural as you begin to operate in the Beautiful Loving Expressions of yourself that you have declared to be you.
This is the process of not allowing other people’s opinions of you become your reality unless that opinion is in agreement with the reality of you that you know to be the one you choose. You don’t have to believe the unbelief of others about you, when they speak their negative beliefs you declare, I am A.B.L.E!